Comments on: Smashing Babies – Not a Good Idea… http://churchm.ag/smashing-babies-not-a-good-idea/ Exploring the Intersection of Church and Technology Fri, 10 Feb 2012 00:28:58 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.2.1 By: personality profile http://churchm.ag/smashing-babies-not-a-good-idea/#comment-42500 personality profile Sat, 29 Jan 2011 06:37:13 +0000 http://churchcrunch.com/2009/05/20/smashing-babies-not-a-good-idea/#comment-42500 It all has to do with communication style. Dale Carnegie of "How to win friends and influence people" stresses the importance of not antagonizing your peers. However that doesn't mean that everybody's idea is a good one. It all has to do with communication style. Dale Carnegie of “How to win friends and influence people” stresses the importance of not antagonizing your peers. However that doesn’t mean that everybody’s idea is a good one.

]]> By: Graham Brenna http://churchm.ag/smashing-babies-not-a-good-idea/#comment-42499 Graham Brenna Wed, 27 May 2009 10:58:04 +0000 http://churchcrunch.com/2009/05/20/smashing-babies-not-a-good-idea/#comment-42499 we do the same thing... see if it fits with the overall "BIG PICTURE" for our church... if not, let em down nice and easy. But sometimes the church doesn't let em down for fear of making them mad. Then we end up doing something that doesn't fit with the "BIG PICTURE". When will the church grow a pair?! we do the same thing… see if it fits with the overall "BIG PICTURE" for our church… if not, let em down nice and easy. But sometimes the church doesn't let em down for fear of making them mad. Then we end up doing something that doesn't fit with the "BIG PICTURE". When will the church grow a pair?!

]]> By: Graham Brenna http://churchm.ag/smashing-babies-not-a-good-idea/#comment-42498 Graham Brenna Wed, 27 May 2009 10:55:53 +0000 http://churchcrunch.com/2009/05/20/smashing-babies-not-a-good-idea/#comment-42498 A humbling reminder. A humbling reminder.

]]> By: Aaron http://churchm.ag/smashing-babies-not-a-good-idea/#comment-42497 Aaron Fri, 22 May 2009 18:55:55 +0000 http://churchcrunch.com/2009/05/20/smashing-babies-not-a-good-idea/#comment-42497 ^ Guilty! :/ ^

Guilty! :/

]]> By: human3rror http://churchm.ag/smashing-babies-not-a-good-idea/#comment-42496 human3rror Thu, 21 May 2009 13:51:05 +0000 http://churchcrunch.com/2009/05/20/smashing-babies-not-a-good-idea/#comment-42496 very true. i'm taking this to heart...! very true. i'm taking this to heart…!

]]> By: Rodlie Ortiz http://churchm.ag/smashing-babies-not-a-good-idea/#comment-42495 Rodlie Ortiz Thu, 21 May 2009 13:12:16 +0000 http://churchcrunch.com/2009/05/20/smashing-babies-not-a-good-idea/#comment-42495 If you're in a position of power this is very easy to do. Especially if you feel you know what the right thing is to do, and especially if you're under a time constraint. One thing that has helped me is to operate under a set of core values, based out of the vision of where we're going as a church. So if it doesn't fit into that, I try to explain that to them and let them down easy. But even in smaller things, yes, I've smashed people's ideas. Hopefully I've done it in graceful ways, but other times I know that it hasn't been that graceful and people have been hurt. So be careful when wielding the mace of power! If you're in a position of power this is very easy to do. Especially if you feel you know what the right thing is to do, and especially if you're under a time constraint. One thing that has helped me is to operate under a set of core values, based out of the vision of where we're going as a church. So if it doesn't fit into that, I try to explain that to them and let them down easy. But even in smaller things, yes, I've smashed people's ideas. Hopefully I've done it in graceful ways, but other times I know that it hasn't been that graceful and people have been hurt. So be careful when wielding the mace of power!

]]> By: human3rror http://churchm.ag/smashing-babies-not-a-good-idea/#comment-42494 human3rror Thu, 21 May 2009 02:57:05 +0000 http://churchcrunch.com/2009/05/20/smashing-babies-not-a-good-idea/#comment-42494 Good point. This person... did not take it lightly. Doh! Good point. This person… did not take it lightly. Doh!

]]> By: bbrooke http://churchm.ag/smashing-babies-not-a-good-idea/#comment-42493 bbrooke Thu, 21 May 2009 02:51:11 +0000 http://churchcrunch.com/2009/05/20/smashing-babies-not-a-good-idea/#comment-42493 Been on both side of that type of a meeting several times. In my experience if we have a mutual respect I welcome the constructive criticism (and will offer it if I feel like I have that type of connection). A real friend won't just tickle someone's ears but help them focus there passion and inspiration. Been on both side of that type of a meeting several times. In my experience if we have a mutual respect I welcome the constructive criticism (and will offer it if I feel like I have that type of connection). A real friend won't just tickle someone's ears but help them focus there passion and inspiration.

]]> By: Daniel_Berman http://churchm.ag/smashing-babies-not-a-good-idea/#comment-42492 Daniel_Berman Thu, 21 May 2009 00:29:49 +0000 http://churchcrunch.com/2009/05/20/smashing-babies-not-a-good-idea/#comment-42492 Thanks for learning this, I have already had two people try to smash my "baby" and really it hasn't improved our relationship. In fact, its only increased my desire to see it come to fruition. There has to be another way.... Thanks for learning this, I have already had two people try to smash my "baby" and really it hasn't improved our relationship. In fact, its only increased my desire to see it come to fruition. There has to be another way….

]]> By: David http://churchm.ag/smashing-babies-not-a-good-idea/#comment-42491 David Wed, 20 May 2009 20:44:31 +0000 http://churchcrunch.com/2009/05/20/smashing-babies-not-a-good-idea/#comment-42491 I almost did exactly the same thing this afternoon...but I caught myself at the last minute. I was not a fan of their "design" but it was their baby - they were passionate about it. I offered a questioning critique but they still held firm to their design. In the end I would have damaged our relationship if I had pushed any further. You have to choose relationship first. I almost did exactly the same thing this afternoon…but I caught myself at the last minute. I was not a fan of their "design" but it was their baby – they were passionate about it. I offered a questioning critique but they still held firm to their design. In the end I would have damaged our relationship if I had pushed any further. You have to choose relationship first.

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