The difference between authenticity and discernment is very difficult. i want to be honest and authentic, but sometimes I have to be discerning in the way that I show that. I had a conversation with someone who had known me through the blog world and then we later met in person. They said that i was a completely different person. Online I was a bit harsh and sometimes abrasive, but in person I was completely different, that i was a calming influence. They did a double take to make sure I was the same person.
I never knew that I came across that way at all until that conversation. I always thought I was discerning but authentic as well, it was a big slap in the face of how "honest" and "authentic" I was online and I made sure that I looked through everything I was posting and how it sounded.